With February 14 approaching, you may start hearing those Valentine’s Day naysayers lamenting about being single. For some, Valentine’s is a reminder of being alone. For me? It’s an opportunity to own being alone. Here’s three ways you can too!
1. Take Yourself on a Date
Picture your ideal date scenario. Perhaps your perfect date is like mine and consists of visiting the Paintlounge and capping off the evening with a nice excursion to a sushi restaurant. Whatever the circumstance may be, that date you’ve always wanted can be achieved – and all you need is you (unless your dream date consists of tandem bicycling, in which case I wish you the best of luck).
It may feel unusual at first to take yourself out, but I encourage owning the experience by dressing up and finding the perfect spot to simply enjoy the food, the atmosphere, the music or activity all by yourself. It can do wonders for your personal wellbeing.
2. Develop a Passion Project
Is there something that you have a particular interest in but have never had the time for? Why not use your alone time to develop a skill, learn a new hobby, or find a volunteering opportunity?
If you’re looking for ideas for what to learn next, I highly recommend creating a Pinterest page and scrolling through the many pins. It’s how I personally learned how to embroider, crochet, knit and cross stitch.
I always find that taking part in something you love can be a satisfying way to spend your time alone and feel accomplished in what you’ve done.
3. Practice Self Care
One of the best things you can do on your own is to really take the opportunity to take care of yourself mentally, emotionally and physically. Being alone really gives you the time to spend looking after numero uno – that’s you.
Focus on yourself and spend time doing the things that make you feel good. Whether that’s journaling, doing yoga, taking a bath, meditating, organizing, exercising, napping, shopping – whatever the activity, try to clear your mind and body of any exterior stressors and treat yourself to the best care you can possibly provide.
Being alone does not have to be a negative thing. It can be a time where you get to learn more about yourself and the world without another person’s thoughts and opinions cluttering your perspective.
So this Valentine’s Day, don’t get down about being alone – own it.